Posted in Book Reviews, Resources

#BookReview: Toke Makinwa’s “On Becoming” May be Overrated.

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Caveat Emptor: this opinion of all the baby mamas in the entertainment industry, their rivals in the ministry, the estranged father and we association of gullible sympathizers and gossip mongers, is simply the authors views and readers are solely responsible for whatever they make of it.

I went through the hassle of downloading “Okada Books” again, that app really needs more work. If ever I host my book on Okada books and you all do not buy, then you spit on the essence of creative writing itself. I checked the Price for Toke Makinwa’s Book and it was a whole #1950 and y’all bought that? Weh don Sah! I salute Nigerians for supporting writers and reading this memoir of a woman who actually confesses to her own self-destruct. I am not disparaging her sincerity, towards the end I felt this would have been a good read for Tiwa Savage and Teebliz.

Aside from the Spanish or is it Latin that was used on the last page to describe the author, I think Tiwa would find the piece relatable. I have never given a redo to any past relationship and I have sworn never to do that ever, reading  Toke’s confession has reinforced my resolve. It is a confession because she could have filled it up with motivational quotes and added a lot more of embellishment (she did this a bit), like those dramatic description of when she was hurt by Maje, how her head almost crashed into a wall. I think she later noticed she was doing a lot more of fiction at some point and reverted to doing her confession. It was a beautiful read after those few bumps, the story takes the reader through the back streets of Abuja, Lagos, the US…..

I think the story draws on the reader’s sympathy quite much, starting with a family disaster where almost half of her family dies. It was not too clear why she chose a rough path while her other siblings seemed to quickly come to grips with the death of their parents. In a way one would be tempted to lose sight of details while nailing the blame on Maje but I think Toke set out to avoid laying all the blame on her ex-husband.

If we compare her story with how Teebliz and Tiwa Savage’s marriage played out, I would suggest that  one should not take Toke Makinwa too serious in the moment, we need to wait for the dust to settle and see if she won’t throw us another curve ball. Yes I almost fell in love with her too, especially at the point where she starts to pull herself together. Yet, I still maintain that she had every chance to do good by herself early enough. I almost said thank God for her that they don’t have a child together, who knows if that is what has dragged Tiwa and her husband back together. One of the silent lessons in “on becoming” is that there is no way to rationalise remarrying a man who dragged your family, your mother, into the mud.

There is no way to rationalise loving a man who allows baby mama to have a bragging right, who fosters the consistent drama of littered ghosts of girlfriends past. Yet it is going to be another “Becoming” best seller and you all are going to spray your cash on the altar of Okada books, except me….don’t ask me how I got to know all these details.

Posted in Book Reviews, Fiction and Poetry, Resources

Living IN Gidi (LIG) is that book whose Protagonist is a City called Lagos

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Review Living in Gidi by Isaac Newton

Isaac Newton played “god” in this novel, I am scared of and for you dude. The way he stands aside to appraise the city and inhabitants like as if the “Book of Life” was being opened. Isaac strips the city naked and talks about all the dirty secrets; gay night clubs, agbero secret codes, getting a girl.

I particularly found his philosophy hilarious, he thinks that Lagos is enough evidence for the existence of God. Who does that?!!! His stories are episodic, you enjoy it like any of these season movies we are used to. I believe the author wanted the reader to watch the book rather than read it. The writers humanity builds a bond with the weak, the down and beaten members of the society. He himself walks into the story unannounced, making the story personal both for the reader and for himself. You would definitely be amused at the way he describes the treachery and cunny that defines the GIDI life.

I wonder the daring photographer who took the illustration pictures, they were fitting into the chaotic situations described in this stories. I would think the pictures were taken with a hidden camera especially those that covered the agberos and other hideous characters.

This book talks about hope, it tells anyone who reads that there is a city somewhere that young Nigerians, Africans are beating the greatest odds to achieve their dreams and LIG is one dream that comes through as a Miracle of the God that lives in Gidi.

Try to get a copy on Okada books, you would have to download the app and its just 2.2mb. Pay #500 using recharge card vouchers. I used my GTB ATM on the mobile browser.

CLICK THIS LINK TO SEE THE BOOK

Some other books I will review soon are:
After Dark by Chinwendu Nwangwa
Fourth Finger by Sally Kenneth Dadzie

I already purchased on Okada books, you can join me by downloading them and let’s review together.

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Posted in Editor's Muse, Generic, Resources, The Logical Theist

WOMEN CRUSHES WEDNESDAY: WHY MARRIAGE IS A FEMINIST TABOO.

middle-finger-wallpaper4I love Joy Isi Bewaji, I love Chimamanda and Linda Ikeji, because they represent everything that the average African girl does not want to be. They have their own money, they are intellectual, they are controversial, they are not married (except Adiche whose marriage remains in the shadows, one would hardly know she is hitched). These women represent the unofficial association of Nigerian Feminists.

“Single motherhood works for me, maybe because I have a very supportive mother. I had my kids in a marriage, and left with my kids. It was my decision. I function better alone. Average partnership irks me. It’s either phenomenal or we can stop patching life like an old dress and find our power and passions independently” – Joy Isi Bewaji

I have been wondering if social media is a work place but reading Joy’s interview on the Punch News Online made me realize that social media is a Job that happens to you on a quest for freedom. Most people that make waves on Facebook (Nigeria) circle are freedom fighters who have suffered societal/religious suppression one time or the other. We eventually find a space where our voice is allowed to echo as far as we can shout and you know what? these women are social noisemakers.

Joy writes about Linda Ikeji and describes her as a gladiator, a social misfit who throws sower grapes around and rips off the people while they attempt to mob her. She is despicable and unapologetic, she is wrong and does not care the tiniest bit about who gets burnt. The women are only fit for Musuems, Hall of Fames, they are not Customizable gift Items that can be smugly fit into the corner of a tiny man’s egocentric world.

“It is a man’s world out there” they say, everything plays by “The man’s rule” and I am using the word “man” loosely because it does not just refer to male humans, it refers to every societal structure that does not allow flexibility, freedom of expression, fluidity. These women like a lot of us have turned the digital space to a woman’s world, where you can be whoever the fuck you want to be. There is no rule book for Joy’s life, she is not waiting to get paid a month end salary or yearly bonuses, she is grabbing the funds from your pockets by being a facebook voltron and the thorn in every man’s flesh. The woman’s world is where everyone can be anybody they want to be!

Chimamanda’s “we should all be feminist” is my next read, I will probably leave a review till another post. What fascinates me about these women is that I believe they will probably never get married and people need to get comfortable with that idea, It is perfectly normal. I have shared on my social feed a number of times that I believe not every human was designed for marriage, Marriage is a choice and staying out of it is a choice every human should be able to make in peace. While I was reading about women writers, I stumbled on an old excerpt about Canadian Women Writers. These women most times had to work in the shadows of their husbands, sometimes they compromised their voice to patronize their husband’s selfish agendas. A great number found harmony with their partners but significant to their stories was the struggle to find independent expression, these women are the true thought leaders and marriage seems to be one of society’s greatest weapons for stifling independence.

Like Joy rightly observed “Freedom is something religion preaches, yet despises” and again Marriage is something that religion preaches as a road to freedom but in Marriage, religion preaches the highest form of suppression. I hate the culture of silence too, I am advocate of free voices, without these freedom, man would have remained in the dark ages. Every work of science, every discovery of technology have been built on the backs of thinkers who were not afraid to defy the norms. Marriage is a taboo!