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Marriage is About Love and Pain, Choose Love. – Mariah Valerie

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There are so many couples who would rather torture themselves by reliving hurts than being in love.
Conflicts are bound to arise in a marriage: some may be forgivable , others may not be so easy to forgive. But for offences that can easily be forgiven, couples tend to drag the issue till it blows out of proportion, all because of ego and pride. Some move around like statues in the house and become flat mates. What if one partner dies while the conflict ensues? we hardly think about this possibility but it happens for real. The living partner begins to regret his/her decision not to reconcile their differences. No matter how much couples think they hate each other, they will never want their partner to die. It therefore begs the question, what then is the point?

Giving the silent treatment is one of the little ‘foxes’ that ruin marriages. It robs couples of all the fun, (not to mention the blessings), they can have with each other. A wife who is giving her husband the silent treatment, remembers something funny that occurred in the past. She wants to share with it her husband but she suddenly remembers that she is not talking to him, and then keeps it to herself. if she had told him, they would have laughed over it, and probably remembered some more, but she robbed them of the fun they would have otherwise had.

Truthfully, it is hard to feel better when you are hurt by someone you love, but think of it, would you rather suffer when you can forgive and have fun? Keep in mind that little squabbles become big if not resolved at the right time. The things that keep a marriage are really not the big things like: shopping, travelling abroad for the holidays and stuff like that. But little things like: sending a smile across while working in the house, a friendly pat on the shoulders as you pass by each other, a back rub, whispering sweet nothings, a walk in the park, a foot massage, a comforting hug, asking your spouse how his/her day went and listening attentively for their response , and so on.
The next time you have fall out with your partner, just before you choose to remain in pain, ask yourself, ‘is it worth it?’

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Live Abundantly: Write

Emeka Nobis is the only writer I have seen that bears his identity with all sincerity and does not camouflage while doing what he does best. He has this to say about one of the greatest problems theist writers encounter; COMPARTMENTS.

Dear writer, avoid compartmentalization.

Someone contacted me on Whatsapp and asked me a question.

“Is it compulsory that a christian writes spiritual stuff? Can a christian be a professional writer, like other professions? I ask this because I’ve always been of the opinion that anything you can do, whether singing or writing, if you are really born again, should be to showcase Jesus. A friend of mine was trying to help understand that its not compulsory but I argued. Now I have found myself in the place where I don’t want to write only spiritual stuff and I feel really bad. I feel like I am seeking for fame and glory, instead showing Jesus.”

My response goes thus :

I’m a Christian. I write as my heart pleases. I don’t compartmentalize myself. A lot of Christians have come at me to always preach on my platform and in my writings. They say that I’m here as a Christian and that my primary assignment is to win souls going to hell. I say NO.

My Sundays are for my spiritual reflections. Any other day I write other stuff. I choose Sundays because of the cultural predilection; a day when people have an affinity for reading all things spiritual.                

You’re a pro like other professions. Write your message from heart. QED

I believe that it’s a faulty thinking to box yourself into writing religious stuff because you’re a born again Christian. I have issues when people insist everything I write must have Jesus sandwiched in between sentences.

Who gave you the gift? The devil?

Are fame and glory bad words?

If you seek glory, is there anything bad with it?

Is fame a bad thing? Didn’t Christ’s fame spread abroad?  
                    
Somehow I feel that many people are living out what they’ve been fed by pastors who don’t have a holistic approach to the word of God. Fame and glory are great. They’re great virtues.

If the whole world mouths your name as a writer, isn’t that credit to your Father?

Dear Christian writer, you’re living for his glory. He gave the gift, so your expression is to His credit. You must not sprinkle Jesus into every sentence to prove you love God.      
                
I’m studying psychology and some Christians tell me is worldly. I laugh. Yet, they come to me to help them.                       

I’m an embodiment of his love and grace. The disciplines of study I engage is to help humanity because I love them. Isn’t that love borne of God.         
             
I hear lots of pastors preach about the dichotomy of work. They tell me engineering is worldly and can’t be a calling.

Foul!!!!      

One lady told me that my work isn’t glorifying God because I don’t write “spiritual” books. I laughed. She said my timeline must be used to preach always.      
                
I replied her, “My work is spiritual. My spirituality is my work. The two of them are intertwined.”

                
Please enjoy your gifts. God gave them to you. Enjoy them.

To my readers,
The Logical theist: is where I examine beliefs and related matters.

Thanks for stopping by.

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Does God Pick fights?

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Just recently I wrote about having erections during Church service, some of the comments I got on the post and on Facebook have provoked even more pertinent questions about divinity and the supernatural parts of being human.

I started wondering if God actually scrolls through all our minds when we are praying, I know sometimes I definitely do not even plan to pray but I just go ahead and do it out of habit. Sometimes I am in a terrible state, I know I should be wallowing in self pity, revisiting all the terrible deeds of the day but I would just curl up on my bed and mutter incoherently. Sometimes I lose my shame and groan with hopes that my tears would actually lead me to some exceptional experience but obviously God has his own agenda and he is not distracted by pettiness.

I stumbled on a post by Olubunmi Mabel, she says:

If God was to answer our prayers based on how focused and less distracted we are during prayers, seriously, we’d have an avalanche of unanswered prayers.

Before I started praying this morning, I was thinking of what to have for breakfast. The thoughts entered my mind while praying, and behold, a breakfast idea crept into my head.

Hehehe.

But really, I can’t say if I was thinking about it o. May be God put it in my heart. That’s a possibility. God cares about every aspect of our lives, including what to have for breakfast when you’re confused.

Have you experienced distractions while praying? Care to share?

#OluMabel

one of the distractions I frequently have is the fear of work left undone, I worry that I should probably be doing a bit more about my business in the hopes that I would sell and make some money for my numerous needs. NEEDS can clutter the mind just as badly as erotic thoughts.

Do you think God gets upset whenever our minds stray? Do you think he picks a fight with us and rejects our prayers?