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WOMEN CRUSHES WEDNESDAY: WHY MARRIAGE IS A FEMINIST TABOO.

middle-finger-wallpaper4I love Joy Isi Bewaji, I love Chimamanda and Linda Ikeji, because they represent everything that the average African girl does not want to be. They have their own money, they are intellectual, they are controversial, they are not married (except Adiche whose marriage remains in the shadows, one would hardly know she is hitched). These women represent the unofficial association of Nigerian Feminists.

“Single motherhood works for me, maybe because I have a very supportive mother. I had my kids in a marriage, and left with my kids. It was my decision. I function better alone. Average partnership irks me. It’s either phenomenal or we can stop patching life like an old dress and find our power and passions independently” – Joy Isi Bewaji

I have been wondering if social media is a work place but reading Joy’s interview on the Punch News Online made me realize that social media is a Job that happens to you on a quest for freedom. Most people that make waves on Facebook (Nigeria) circle are freedom fighters who have suffered societal/religious suppression one time or the other. We eventually find a space where our voice is allowed to echo as far as we can shout and you know what? these women are social noisemakers.

Joy writes about Linda Ikeji and describes her as a gladiator, a social misfit who throws sower grapes around and rips off the people while they attempt to mob her. She is despicable and unapologetic, she is wrong and does not care the tiniest bit about who gets burnt. The women are only fit for Musuems, Hall of Fames, they are not Customizable gift Items that can be smugly fit into the corner of a tiny man’s egocentric world.

“It is a man’s world out there” they say, everything plays by “The man’s rule” and I am using the word “man” loosely because it does not just refer to male humans, it refers to every societal structure that does not allow flexibility, freedom of expression, fluidity. These women like a lot of us have turned the digital space to a woman’s world, where you can be whoever the fuck you want to be. There is no rule book for Joy’s life, she is not waiting to get paid a month end salary or yearly bonuses, she is grabbing the funds from your pockets by being a facebook voltron and the thorn in every man’s flesh. The woman’s world is where everyone can be anybody they want to be!

Chimamanda’s “we should all be feminist” is my next read, I will probably leave a review till another post. What fascinates me about these women is that I believe they will probably never get married and people need to get comfortable with that idea, It is perfectly normal. I have shared on my social feed a number of times that I believe not every human was designed for marriage, Marriage is a choice and staying out of it is a choice every human should be able to make in peace. While I was reading about women writers, I stumbled on an old excerpt about Canadian Women Writers. These women most times had to work in the shadows of their husbands, sometimes they compromised their voice to patronize their husband’s selfish agendas. A great number found harmony with their partners but significant to their stories was the struggle to find independent expression, these women are the true thought leaders and marriage seems to be one of society’s greatest weapons for stifling independence.

Like Joy rightly observed “Freedom is something religion preaches, yet despises” and again Marriage is something that religion preaches as a road to freedom but in Marriage, religion preaches the highest form of suppression. I hate the culture of silence too, I am advocate of free voices, without these freedom, man would have remained in the dark ages. Every work of science, every discovery of technology have been built on the backs of thinkers who were not afraid to defy the norms. Marriage is a taboo!

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Bondage is an Archaic concept that is trending

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I have considered entering a bondage before, as gentle and sane as I look. Looking back at what made this an attractive idea, I think it was that need to feel possessed by someone else. Strangely you may not believe that some people actually derive pleasure from being owned, just as some derive pleasure from being owners of others.

I remember the days of “Tagged”, that social network where people are called “Pets”. The network had its own currency and each user had a value for being on the platform, people were being traded and one could increasingly build value by buying other pets and selling them when they increased in Value. The gamefication of slavery and bondage is one phenomenon that will not die any time soon, it gives Psychological satisfaction and relief to a lot of people and just like any addiction it could be hard to break.

I also remember the era of role play games, I didn’t get involved much in these ones because they involved a lot of internet connection data and Nigeria was still catching up on a very slow pace. I remember that we had chat rooms also where people would pretend/role play as master and slaves, I saw these things as just text and chatting. I never realized till much later that they were going beyond the social platforms to meetups, cash transactions, torture, submissions and real life cults.

There is a bond of possession that is inextricably linked with sexual activity, even in our poems we talk about how the lover gives out his soul. We can feel the depth of these things and we understand that simple repetitions of these kind of ideas actually turn into a fixed psych that ensures that the victim continues to search for a owner and the owner continues to search for a slave.

The story of the Nigerian man who shows in public functions with ladies leashed like dogs seems like a shocker but it should not be. We should be more concerned about why these physical manifestations are not linked to something deeper than just arrogance or riches. There is a soul tie between the owner and the owned and it is these kind if relationships that should be expected in the coming years as Africans evolve in sexuality, technology and relationship.

The shameful thing is that, the law has nothing to say about this. We may say spiritual bondage is not real, but here we are seeing fellow humans tied like animals.

Posted in The Logical Theist

Glorified Curses In the Name of God

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If you have been following my blog you would notice the sections here like the Horny Christian, Logical Theist, Fiction and Poetry. I would be doing more of personal posts that would aim to expose my thoughts and at the same time challenge issues which I know are burdensome to me and to a lot of people around me.

Today I trekked to and from Church because I did not have smaller denominations to pay my fare, I stubbornly told myself I was doing right by making it a duty to be part of a congregation. Eventually I arrived church, they were singing and dancing as expected.

A lot of things happened in the Church that I enjoy and there are a lot also that I found really unsettling. I will talk about two specific ones that are relevant to the African or Nigerian believer or theist:

1. False Prophesies: I looked up definitions of Prophesies.

verb (prophesies, prophesying; past and past participle prophesied)To speak or write with divine inspiration; to act as prophet. [from 14th c.]To predict, to foretell. [from 14th c.]intransitive Christianity To speak out on theBible as an expression of holy inspiration; topreach. [from 14th c.]

Should Prophesies be always good? No since not everything in our world is good, so the future cannot always be good. Yet prophesies are classified in scriptures as tools for edification, building people up. What’s the point of telling someone about the “bad” future if there was no way out?

Should Prophecies be accurate? Yes!

Today at church, Pastor said that there were 7(seven) people who were seeing animals in their dreams. I know I must have seen animals one time or the other in my dream so its certain that there would be 6 other people who have been seeing animals too, we see all manner of things in our dreams.

This to some extent does not yet raise any alarm in my head not until;

2. Evil Declarations: Pastor went on to say that the 7 people who came out for prayers had to fast and pray the next day. He said they are supposed to “Kill” the animals in their dreams with prayers and the result for one of them would be that someone in their family would die.

Notice that he had just declared that someone would die based on prayers, how would you feel if someone died because you said they would? If you are happy about people dying by your prayers or words, then you are probably not different from the terrorist who carries a gun or blade in the name of God.

The students shouted for joy, they have been raised to believe that this manner of belief is good.

– There is no way to substantiate these predictions?
– They were random and vague.
– There is no justification for wishing people dead.
– Why can’t you pray for God’s protection from evil spirits even if they truly are after you, must you pray for the death of another human?

This is being logical about your beliefs, this is being sensible, being human. It is prophesies like these that separate families, they create suspicion and division. If truly this Prophesy would be beneficial, it should be specific enough to point out who it refers to, the person particularly involved and should not create a canopy of suspicion for 7 young people and their families.

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