Posted in motivate, Up and Close

There is Always Something You Can Do, Never Give Up.

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Being the kind of person that never accepts defeat, I am having a tough time accepting that this week is starting off like “guy, there is nothing you can do”. All the message my body and mind is saying is, go back to bed and feel sorry for yourself. I understand that there are dreams and they will not be done by a sleeping man so here is the bit I can share with you all today.

There is always that one step you can take, even when you feel so terrible and everything just seems to be falling out of place. I honestly wanted to skip #MotivationMonday like I skipped #FictionSaturday and my Wednesday book review. The whole of last week was filled with work on my writing website and I got my hubspot certification in content creation and marketing.

After looking back on what I did last week, I know I have not done bad. I even launched a Magazine with close to 1000 downloads. Yet there is this nagging feeling that I am not yet where I want to be, I feel like hurrying through this stage and arriving at my destination. This impatience is what has made me to lose my joy, instead of enjoying the moments and appreciating what I have been able to do so far, I keep feeling bad about what I have not been able to do.

I don’t have the perfect answers to this feeling but the best I can do is to let you all know there is someone going through what you are facing. Maybe you have done your best as a father but you still can’t pay the bills or you have written business proposals and made a lot of attempts to achieve your goals in life. I want you to know that you are not alone, you are not a failure. Don’t let these time make you lose sight of the good things you have been able to achieve. Sit back for a second and appreciate what you have done right. That is one more thing you can do, its a good way to bounce back and I know its working for me.

PS: I appreciate my Facebook friend Saddam Nihor who let me know he had been reading my Monday posts, it went a long way to bring me on here today.

Posted in Story Series, Up and Close

10 habits of happy people

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My life is like a freight train, it sometimes has an open roof and people dump their refuse while I pass by. Imagine night train passing through a lonely town. The people don’t have waste disposal systems and there are no waste collectors, so they stand by the rail line, eagerly waiting for the freight train at night.

The train slows down “CLING CLONG CLING CLONG” and then like bugs, parasites; they perch on the sides of the Carriage and fling their rubbish on to the train. The gullible driver, rides on none the wiser!

1. You must not spend your days so involved that you fill it up with everyone’s agenda except your own. Have your own plans!

2. Do not take rest stops because you think everyone does so, don’t visit a friend because you think everyone is doing so. They may just hand you your next problem!

3. Strange Admirers always have motives, they eagerly wait for you to arrive, they perch on you like mosquitoes and fleece you of the little time you have.

4. Strange Admirers are the ones you have hardly known but they already love everything about you, it never lasts long.

5. Every human comes with a load of baggage and fights, you cannot be part of everyone’s battles. Pick the battles that affect you directly and let every other one slide.

6. One minute you are here and the next minute you are gone, life is too fleeting to attach importance to everything, everyone, every place. Be deliberate about what you allow in your limited time!

7. Don’t wave to the stragglers, they always  have stories to tell. Rumour mongers always know something that happened to someone that started somewhere…… and on and on till half of life is spent on Idle chatter.

8. Gain momentum when things go downhill, the rail is fastest when the coach seems to be nosediving.

9. No one cares about you as much as they care about their rubbish, their need to transfer aggression, ill-feelings, burdens, usually outweighs whatever time and energy loss that it would cost you to participate in their drama. This is why everyone thinks every one else should learn to be “loyal”, don’t trade loyalty for freedom.

10. Pay your dues, society develops the rail line, it is important only to take a break when you have to give back to society. 

These are ideals that cut across religious and cultural differences, they would make a stronger person of you. It is not important so much to be influential as it is to be free, to be happy till death takes us.

I hope you have a great weekend as it approaches, drop your comments and tell me what you love about this post and any other wise thoughts that would help my friends to live happier lives.

Posted in Resources, Up and Close

5 neighbours to Avoid by all means

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We all get sentimental when some stranger calls us “neighbour”, trust me I know how that feels. In a church setting that would be the appellation “bro” or “sis”, some people change churches so they can get stuff from a lot of bros and sistas all at once. I love that story Jesus told about neighbours, you know that man by the roadside, who was beaten up and all sorts of people came by. The annoying part of history is that it always repeats itself!

Neighbours Alter Your day in such capacities that can keep you stuck for Life

You are young, trying to build a life and let me tell you what usually happens ” Life f*cks you up!”. Like a victim, you suddenly realize you have been robbed and beaten up by government and society, over and over again.

This reminds me of so many people who were laid off without compensation in recent times, no one in Nigeria presently under 40 years has not felt the brunt of the economic crunch. It is not healthy to attach so much importance to some kind of Neighbours, we should be ready to let them go! Especially in times like these.

So who are these unwelcome Neighbours?

1. The Hypocrites! Let me break this down for you, everyone thinks everyone else is an hypocrite, so everyone has a piece of advice while they stand aside and watch you burn!!! Avoid people who only interact with you when they have a “piece of advice”.

2. The Cult: they always know the right cliques, they know who you need to support or else you are a “sinner”. I saw one example recently, someone said only unbelievers would support “Donald Trump”, I could care less cause I am not American! Funny enough the person who made this claim is not American too but he believes he has an obligation to form a cult around Trump and if you are not in, you are not IN! Please flee these ones like evil.

3. Blood Suckers: they thrive on your misfortune, they may seem to be totally invisible at the moment but wait till something evil happens. They come to make the evil more EVIL, they mourn “the loss” as if to make you drown in it. They never have an encouraging word, when you are down they are the kind of neighbours who would still come to borrow your Sofa, so that you only have the bare floor to lie on.

4. Apostolic parasites; these neighbours that will evangelise you into becoming a cheerful giver, by the time you come back to your senses you have divided all your fortunes into two and you are helping them move it across the yard. They consistently make you feel guilty for not giving enough! They also overlap roles with the last group;

5. Regalia Pastors/Ministries: these group of people can make so much noise about nothing, they are found in a lot of controversies over church doctrines of Tithing, giving, and sowing of seeds! Currently Christian children are being married off to Emirs or their aides in Nigeria and you don’t see so much noise about it, some Christians were killed and these Pastors will not speak up, they ask people to give more. These are the kind of neighbours that would dig a hole in the side of your water tank and ask you to fast and pray against the evil forces that are trying to wreck you, they won’t tell you to get a plumber!

Neighbours are great assets, friends could be a stepping stone to a lot of great things but it is important to keep the right people around us at all times. Have you had any experience with these kind of issues? Do you think you need to change how you relate to people and the kind of people you associate with? I would love to hear from you in the comments section.